Where does it come from?

Him: Wats up
Him: Good Morning
Me: Good morning
Me: how are you
Him: good
Him: what u doin
Me: I'm in class
Him: you should come pick me up
Me: Nope
Him: lol y
Me: cuz I have stuff to do
Him: I wanna taste that

DID I MISS SOMETHING?!?!? Was that supposed to be a turn on or some reason to actually make me drive out to Pasadena and see your no goal setting ass? When did sex become a pick up line?

Or is it me? Maybe I grew up watching shows where men actually courted the women they liked. YES...I said courted. Is it wrong for me to expect a man to be interested in me and not how quickly they can lay me? And they wonder why women claim there are no good black men around. What ever happened to good conversation that was just that, good conversation? Why must the concept of good conversation lead to sex in some way. EXAMPLE:

Me: hey...how was your day
Him: It was cool. My car's in the shop
Me: what happened
Him: the transmission went out
Me: that blows...you sound like you could use a hug
Him: I'm single. I need ass...not no hug. lol

I apologize if I offered a hug. Maybe that sent the wrong implications. Oh wait...I was being cordial. Just like my mama raised me to be. As if the "lol" was to soften the blow of him lowkey implicating that he wanted to have sex. Seriously...what happened to the men who took the time to get to know you. And you looked forward to the phone call where he just wanted to see how your day went and mean it? As opposed to seeing how your day went to determine your mood to see if he could come over later.

Hey...I'm talking to all the men out there. If you have done this, STOP IT!!! It's not sexy, its not a turn on, and you look foolish. Now if this is not you, tell a friend how to act if you know someone like this.

*SIDE NOTE* The examples used in this blog are real. They have really happened to me. The first conversation is a different guy used in the second conversation.

Epiphany

Anyone who knows me, knows that I have never been one to enjoy working out. My idea of exercise was walking from my car to class and back. So as of lately, I have been doing morning run/walks on the beach and today I finally hit Marina del Rey. Yes ladies and gentlemen, from Dockweiler to Marina del Rey. I felt so inspired to keep going but I was on a time schedule. But I had an epiphany this morning. My goal is to get my life right. Not so much to lose weight but to be right. High blood pressure and diabetes run in my family and I'll be damned if I fall victim to such preventable diseases. But in the midst of me trying to get my life right, I'd be remiss if I didn't take care of all aspects of my life. Simply put, its time for me to deal with certain people in my life that I chose to right off. Its not fair to me or to them to just completely disregard them as if they never existed.

For them, its a sudden drop of a ball. No communication for no reason. As much as I like to believe that I don't care, and to a certain extent...I don't. In actuality, I don't like to leave books unfinished. For me, I continue to dwell on these things until they no longer invade my thoughts. This only works when you can totally avoid the person. In my case...some things are inevitable. So its time to take a visit to my past and deal with the things, mainly people, that I have chosen to ignore. I pray for strength, humility, and patience because this is not going to be easy. I have had an anger issue for as long as I can remember and I have grown but it remains repressed until I have reached a breaking point. So in due time (hopefully before the new year), I am going to confront all the things that have caused an issue in my life.

PUBLIC SERIVCE ANNOUNCEMENT

PUBLIC SERVICE ANNOUNCEMENT: UGGS ARE NOT RAIN BOOTS!!!

I know we all love the rain. And during this cold weather we all want to stay warm. However, Uggs and all like boots that are made of soft material and/or suede are meant to keep your feet warm. It will not protect you from the wetness that is the rain. Besides...it only messes with the longevity of the shoe and no shoe deserves that.

Boots, Scarves, and Umbrellas...Oh My!!!

I am absolutely loving this weather. Its something about the first rain of the year that brings something out of people. Some people seem to realize how lonely they are when the weather gets cold. Now all of a sudden people want to be involved in relationship and are looking for snuggle buddies. While others seem to want to get kinda frisky with the rain. Often looking for someone who is just as stupid to go and have sex in the rain. By all means...do what you do people. Just make sure you get your flu vaccines before you get all kinky in 63 degree weather. Which actually feels like 55 with all the rain and high winds. Me on the other hand, I'm just looking for pajamas with the footies (courtesy of Target), a good movie, good friends, hot cocoa, and a big blanket to welcome in this beautiful weather. If anyone wants to join me, by all means, I have an open door policy (only if I know you). Rain...I welcome thee.

Make it meaningful

I just need to say this: For all of you who are reading this and have tattoos...what does yours mean? I ask this because I see people who walk around flaunting their tattoos and when you ask why they got it, some ridiculous answer is given that makes no sense. I have a tattoo. Its the Adinkra symbol Nyame Dua that means "the tree of God" and represents God's presence and protection. I always wanted to get one but wanted something meaningful, that had purpose. Then I got to a place in my life where I was so emotionally displaced and rediscovered God in my life. So I got the tattoo as a constant reminder of the power of God in my life. So I question...why did you get your tattoo and what does it mean to you and to the purpose of your life?

Trey Songz

If you don't have the cd, GO GET IT!!! (Bless him and that body. LOL [smiley face])

PENIS!!!

So I was watching Dr. Oz yesterday and he had a whole forum on male health. The first segment of the show was, you guessed it, the male PENIS!! I became fully enthralled with the facts and how the male organ operates. There was a video that shows how the male has an erection, from the inside. Basically they showed how it begins mentally, the brain releases nitric oxide that sends blood rushing to the penis which causes it to become enlarged. Then, there were the facts.

Fact #1: The average male penis is 5.4 inches. Ladies...if you get anything over six inches, congratulations, your man is packin. If you get anything under 5.5 inches, your man is bringing down the curve.

Fact #2: Smoking makes the dick smaller. It has something to do with the release of nitric oxide which stops or slows down that rush of blood, causing the penis to not reach its full length. Question: I wonder if this includes weed?

Fact #3: Losing weight adds up to an inch to the male penis. This is because the loss of the belly fat allows you to see an extra inch of the penis.

Fact #4: One of the testes is supposed to larger than the other. This is usually the left testicle that is supposed to be larger than the right. They are also asymmetrical so they do not hit each other. The size of the male testicles are supposed to be the size of walnuts. If they are smaller, it may mean that your testosterone is low. If they are bigger, you wanna go get checked out...could be infected, a cyst, or a tumor (usually benign).

As you can see, I was heavily enthralled with the show. I did watch the whole thing and found out a lot of useful information. However, I believe you can see which one captivated my attention the most...LOL [smiley face]. (that's for you Trey Songz ;-)

I'm lowkey hella juiced

FALL IS HERE!!! Time to break out the wool coats, scarves, and boots. I'm so excited that the weather is beginning to change. As much as I love summer, it seemed to have lasted a lot longer than it should have. Seriously?!?!? I still was in a relationship with summer at the end of September. So yesterday, when the weather declared winds and 69 degree forecast, I went to the back of my closet, found my sweater and put on my boots. Fall, I welcome thee. Although our relationship is intertwined with winter, because lets be honest...in California, there is no difference, I look forward to the scarves that get to come out of hibernation and my boots that get to see daylight (and not just through my window). But most importantly, I look forward to the new boots that are going to make its way to my closet as well as the potential peacoat I may purchase. WELCOME AUTUMN...WELCOME.

It's like this song was written just for me...

I don't fancy you too much, child
I don't fancy you too much
I don't fancy you too much, child
I don't fancy you too much
You think you're cute, you think you're fine
You're always trying to steal my shine
Get off of me, don't mess with me
You know who you are

I've always been so nice to you, girl
Helping you girl, there for you girl
You always tried to compete with me, girl
Using me girl, abusing me girl
Flirtin' with every man you see
Especially if the man likes me
Baby where's your self esteem
Find your own identity
(Your head ain't right) No congratulating schemer
(Your head ain't right) You's a liar and a cheater
And I don't want you I don't want you I don't want you no more
Don't come knockin' at my door
I don't know what you came here for, if you didn't know then now you know

I don't fancy you too much, child
I don't fancy you too much
I don't fancy you too much, child
I don't fancy you too much
You think you're cute, you think you're fine
You're always trying to steal my shine
Get off of me, don't mess with me
You know who you are

Roll those eyes girl, twist them hips girl
Swing those hands all in the air
If you wonder why you never had a girlfriend, I think I made myself clear
Girl change your ways right now today
Stop hating me, baby find your own identity
(Your head ain't right) No congratulating schemer
(Your head ain't right) You's a liar and a cheater
And I don't want you I don't want you I don't want you no more
Don't come knockin' at my door
Don't know what you came here for, if you didn't know then now you know

I don't fancy you too much, child
I don't fancy you too much
I don't fancy you too much, child
I don't fancy you too much
You think you're cute, you think you're fine
You're always trying to steal my shine
Get off of me, don't mess with me
You know who you are

Girlfriend Lord knows that I've tried
No matter how much I give to you, you wanna use me for what I got
You take me kindness for weakness, you take advantage of people
One day you shall reap what you sew, girl get your head up out the clouds

Girlfriend, you think you're cute
Girlfriend, don't ya think you're fine
Girlfriend, you're always trying
Always trying to steal my shine
Girlfriend, you think you're cute

I don't fancy you too much, child
I don't fancy you too much
I don't fancy you too much, child
I don't fancy you too much
You think you're cute, you think you're fine
You're always trying to steal my shine
Get off of me, don't mess with me
You know who you are

I WON'T SAY NO NAMES!!!

HAPPY INDEPENDENCE DAY NIGERIA!!!

Arise, O compatriots,

Nigeria's call obey

To serve our Fatherland

With love and strength and faith.

The labour of our heroes past

Shall never be in vain,

To serve with heart and might

One nation bound in freedom, peace and unity.

O God of creation,

Direct our noble cause;

Guide our Leaders right:

Help our Youth the truth to know,

In love and honesty to grow,

And living just and true,

Great lofty heights attain,

To build a nation where peace and justice shall reign.