Love vs. Lust

"If someone doesn't say "I love you" unless you're giving them something then its NOT love, its an emotional distraction so you don't see the fool you're being." This quote and recent events has inspired me in this blog.

I know why I choose to be single. I don't just jump when people ask me to jump. We are all looking for someone to love, and who will love us back. There is nothing wrong with this concept. As a matter of fact, we all deserve this. But this idea and the emotion that ensues takes time to develop.

Sometimes we get so caught up in emotion that we fall in love with the idea of love, we tend to forget to think thoroughly. There are people we have good times with, people we date whether casually or seriously, and those we marry. Take time to see what type of person that you are dealing with to know where you stand. Let's not confuse a good time with long lasting relationships.

Let's stop confusing lust for love...it only hurts us in the end because reality eventually sets in and slaps us in the face with the truth. If you decide that you don't deserve much, you won't get much and you can only blame yourself. It becomes so easy for us to blame others for our unhappiness or misfortunes, we forget to look inward and claim responsibility for the choices that we have made. If you happened to get drunk at my house, with the bottle of vodka I bought, at the end of the day you made a decision to take that shot. So lets elevate our standards and demand the best because we deserve nothing less. And once your standards are elevated, it should become more and more easier to say no to the things and people who are undeserving of your time, space, and energy.

So...if you are over the age of 21, its time to start actively reflecting on your life, your purpose, your goals, and the memory you want to leave people with. Its time to be responsible. Its an ongoing process, lesson and development. Acknowledging self-responsibility is the hardest thing any person can do, but once you've learned to this, you become more conscious of yourself and what's important to you and in your life.